Most of the people on the dating scene are looking for great partners. Someone who will fulfill the vacuum in their life and heart. Someone very smart, intelligent and loving. In the age of competition it is not easy unless you show innovative approach. Don't take me wrong. I am not asking you to create a drama or anything of that type, but creating mood that will get you your heart's desire.
How romantic are you? Have you tested yourself on that? Let me ask you a simple question. Does a rainbow look romantic to you? What does a butterfly make you think of? What happens when you walk on the fallen flowers in a garden? Does watching sunset make you think of a poetry? Do you read poetry? Do you enjoy it? Have you ever stared at the eyes of anyone of opposite sex without uttering a word for a minute? If you have done any of these , you are a romantic at heart. You will win the game.
Most of us believe that dating means expensive dinners, visiting theatres, watching movie and so on. You can never create romance at any of these places. For making your partner feel romantic and passionate, you have to go to a location where nature dances with joy. You have to feel part of that nature and enjoy the love that nature gives without asking anything in return. Sing a small poem to your date and you make your day.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Dating Sites and Dating Tips
There are certain tips that should be borne in mind when using a dating site, because although you may be the best person on offer on the site, it will come to nothing unless you can get yourself noticed.
First of all you need to write a good profile, one that will catch people’s attention. Women for example should avoid the pitfall of mentioning sex; it will lead to the wrong kind of responses. Men should write about themselves and not just what they are interested in e.g. football.
Please try to remember what you are trying to gain out of dating; a long term relationship. Therefore be prepared to put some effort into your profile, a little work at the outset will make it so much easier to attract the right sort of person for you. Try to identify your traits, are you a naturally happy person, are you outgoing or shy? Try to give your prospective date some real information about your character. If you have a particular hobby or something you enjoy doing, for example – cooking, let them know about it.
People often ask if they should include a photo with their profile. I would advise that it is best that you should include both a full length photo and a close up one. But please remember to make that recent ones! Don’t be tempted into including a 10 year old photo because you will get caught out! It is a fact however that dating profiles that include photos attract more responses than those without; I guess people like to see what they are getting!
So, once you have got a date, what should you do and what are the no no’s?
Men – tips for you…
Listen to what the woman is saying and take an interest; ask her questions on what she is talking about. Try to ask questions that encourage conversation rather than just a yes or no answer. For example, you could ask what was it about a book that made them like it rather than ‘did you like the book?’
Never talk about your previous relationships; it’s not something she wants to hear about!
Always tell the truth on a date, if you don’t it will catch up with you somewhere down the line!
Don’t go overboard on the Dutch courage! A couple of drinks to be sociable are ok but don’t get drunk – you won’t make a good impression. You make think your telling the funniest jokes and talking perfectly normally but believe me, you aren’t! I know because my wife tells me so!
On to the tips for the ladies!
Try and compliment the man –he will love you for it. Praise him for what he is good at and don’t criticize him over his bad points.
Try to be positive when talking with him; don’t discuss your previous relationships in detail.
Be confident. Men are attracted to confident women. There subconsciously feel that a confident woman has the ability to attract men more easily than a not so confident woman, so the fact you are with him will flatter him!
Keep eye contact for that little bit longer than normal. This is a sure fire sign for the man that you are interested in him, but subtle.
First of all you need to write a good profile, one that will catch people’s attention. Women for example should avoid the pitfall of mentioning sex; it will lead to the wrong kind of responses. Men should write about themselves and not just what they are interested in e.g. football.
Please try to remember what you are trying to gain out of dating; a long term relationship. Therefore be prepared to put some effort into your profile, a little work at the outset will make it so much easier to attract the right sort of person for you. Try to identify your traits, are you a naturally happy person, are you outgoing or shy? Try to give your prospective date some real information about your character. If you have a particular hobby or something you enjoy doing, for example – cooking, let them know about it.
People often ask if they should include a photo with their profile. I would advise that it is best that you should include both a full length photo and a close up one. But please remember to make that recent ones! Don’t be tempted into including a 10 year old photo because you will get caught out! It is a fact however that dating profiles that include photos attract more responses than those without; I guess people like to see what they are getting!
So, once you have got a date, what should you do and what are the no no’s?
Men – tips for you…
Listen to what the woman is saying and take an interest; ask her questions on what she is talking about. Try to ask questions that encourage conversation rather than just a yes or no answer. For example, you could ask what was it about a book that made them like it rather than ‘did you like the book?’
Never talk about your previous relationships; it’s not something she wants to hear about!
Always tell the truth on a date, if you don’t it will catch up with you somewhere down the line!
Don’t go overboard on the Dutch courage! A couple of drinks to be sociable are ok but don’t get drunk – you won’t make a good impression. You make think your telling the funniest jokes and talking perfectly normally but believe me, you aren’t! I know because my wife tells me so!
On to the tips for the ladies!
Try and compliment the man –he will love you for it. Praise him for what he is good at and don’t criticize him over his bad points.
Try to be positive when talking with him; don’t discuss your previous relationships in detail.
Be confident. Men are attracted to confident women. There subconsciously feel that a confident woman has the ability to attract men more easily than a not so confident woman, so the fact you are with him will flatter him!
Keep eye contact for that little bit longer than normal. This is a sure fire sign for the man that you are interested in him, but subtle.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Dating Personals: Photo Tips
You're ready to try online dating. You've polished your profile, and your best friend has concluded that you are so attractive that even they would like to date you. It's come to that time! Somebody online who posted a dating personal wants to see what you look like. What picture of yourself will you paint when you display a photo along with your profile?
There are a few guidelines that apply to online dating photos that you should observe which will improve your profile. These are as follows:
1. Do add at least one photo of yourself to your profile! If you don't, you're seriously putting yourself at a disadvantage. Many people search only for people who have uploaded photos. Still others don't like the idea of a "blind date," and won't go through with a meeting if they haven't seen what you look like.
2. Remember that you are trying to be a salesperson here; you're trying to sell yourself. Look at the photographs of other people on the online dating site. Is yours similar? If so, you will not stand out from the crowd! The photo you post should be good quality.
Do yourself a favour and forget the shot that someone took of you when you were at a nightclub last month, cut off just to one side where your ex was still in the photo. There are tons of photos like this, and they don't make people want to find out more! Your profile will be more attractive than if you hadn't posted a photo, probably, but you're still not going to stand out from the crowd and do yourself justice. Ask yourself what you would want to see if you were a member of the target audience (usually the opposite sex), looking at your profile for the first time, and be critical.
At the very least, have a photo taken of yourself for the express purpose of using with your dating profile. You don't need to have had it done professionally, although it certainly wouldn't hurt! I suggest you find yourself someone who has a digital camera (or have them borrow yours) and can take photos well, and offer them a pint or three to take several photos of you. Get them to take a fair number of photos (20 or so), perhaps on different settings, because not all of them may work well, and because you then have a good selection to choose from.
Choose your backdrop carefully! A nice simple approach is to go to a field or a beach when it's near sunset, and have photos taken of yourself against this background. The background you choose should show yourself in a romantic or fun setting, and your clothes should be appropriate to that setting.
How about an interesting alternative? If you know somebody who is good with art packages such as Paint Shop Pro, have them paint out the background, and change the photo so that it looks like a spotlight is shining on you!
3. It may be a good idea to try and improve the photo, as is often done of photos of models in advertising. If you have any obvious, but small, disfigurements, these could be airbrushed out with a painting package. If you can't do it yourself, you probably know someone who can do it for you. Don't go overboard with this; make sure the photo still looks like you!
4. Don't be tempted to lie by posting a photo of George Clooney or Catherine Zeta Jones, unless of course you really are one of those people! The photo must be one of yourself, otherwise when it comes to a face-to-face meeting, the relationship could be over before it's even begun!
5. This tip is not well-known. Add a border to your photo, coloured the same as the hyperlinks on the target site. The reason for this is partly to make your photo stand out, but also because most photos shown on online dating agency sites are also links to your profile. Your photo will then look like a link, and it increases the chance of it being clicked on. If there is any "outside" to your photo, this should then have the exact same colour as the background of the site. This can be found by using Alt-Print Screen to grab an image of your web browser when on the dating site, then pasting it into an art package, and identifying the colour from there. (Note that some online dating agency sites already supply borders around images; the trick will not work on these.)
6. If you have several photos of you doing interesting activities and the site permits it, post one photo of you doing each activity in addition to your head-and-shoulders shot. For example, photos of you skiing while on holiday; photos showing you braving the rapids in white-water rafting; photos of you doing your favourite sport. They help to prove that you do the things you say you do in your profile, and they make your profile more interesting!
There are a few guidelines that apply to online dating photos that you should observe which will improve your profile. These are as follows:
1. Do add at least one photo of yourself to your profile! If you don't, you're seriously putting yourself at a disadvantage. Many people search only for people who have uploaded photos. Still others don't like the idea of a "blind date," and won't go through with a meeting if they haven't seen what you look like.
2. Remember that you are trying to be a salesperson here; you're trying to sell yourself. Look at the photographs of other people on the online dating site. Is yours similar? If so, you will not stand out from the crowd! The photo you post should be good quality.
Do yourself a favour and forget the shot that someone took of you when you were at a nightclub last month, cut off just to one side where your ex was still in the photo. There are tons of photos like this, and they don't make people want to find out more! Your profile will be more attractive than if you hadn't posted a photo, probably, but you're still not going to stand out from the crowd and do yourself justice. Ask yourself what you would want to see if you were a member of the target audience (usually the opposite sex), looking at your profile for the first time, and be critical.
At the very least, have a photo taken of yourself for the express purpose of using with your dating profile. You don't need to have had it done professionally, although it certainly wouldn't hurt! I suggest you find yourself someone who has a digital camera (or have them borrow yours) and can take photos well, and offer them a pint or three to take several photos of you. Get them to take a fair number of photos (20 or so), perhaps on different settings, because not all of them may work well, and because you then have a good selection to choose from.
Choose your backdrop carefully! A nice simple approach is to go to a field or a beach when it's near sunset, and have photos taken of yourself against this background. The background you choose should show yourself in a romantic or fun setting, and your clothes should be appropriate to that setting.
How about an interesting alternative? If you know somebody who is good with art packages such as Paint Shop Pro, have them paint out the background, and change the photo so that it looks like a spotlight is shining on you!
3. It may be a good idea to try and improve the photo, as is often done of photos of models in advertising. If you have any obvious, but small, disfigurements, these could be airbrushed out with a painting package. If you can't do it yourself, you probably know someone who can do it for you. Don't go overboard with this; make sure the photo still looks like you!
4. Don't be tempted to lie by posting a photo of George Clooney or Catherine Zeta Jones, unless of course you really are one of those people! The photo must be one of yourself, otherwise when it comes to a face-to-face meeting, the relationship could be over before it's even begun!
5. This tip is not well-known. Add a border to your photo, coloured the same as the hyperlinks on the target site. The reason for this is partly to make your photo stand out, but also because most photos shown on online dating agency sites are also links to your profile. Your photo will then look like a link, and it increases the chance of it being clicked on. If there is any "outside" to your photo, this should then have the exact same colour as the background of the site. This can be found by using Alt-Print Screen to grab an image of your web browser when on the dating site, then pasting it into an art package, and identifying the colour from there. (Note that some online dating agency sites already supply borders around images; the trick will not work on these.)
6. If you have several photos of you doing interesting activities and the site permits it, post one photo of you doing each activity in addition to your head-and-shoulders shot. For example, photos of you skiing while on holiday; photos showing you braving the rapids in white-water rafting; photos of you doing your favourite sport. They help to prove that you do the things you say you do in your profile, and they make your profile more interesting!
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